Test: When was the last time you had fun with your spouse?
If your immediate response is asking what exactly is meant by having ‘fun’ then you are not off to a good start. You know what it means to have fun. When you are spending time with your spouse laughing and enjoying each other’s company then you are having fun together.
You do not have to spend a lot of money or do any elaborate planning. It is great to plan a fun adventure together but must not be the only time you have fun together.
Many of us have children in our home. As parents we have a responsibility to disciple them, journey through their education path with them, shepherd their character development, and generally make sure they survive childhood.
This season of life is stressful. Our homes look an awful lot like a business. We have schedules and deadlines. We have personnel to manage. As parents we are CEO, CFO, and the HR department. We are constantly making decision or settling disputes. It is a HUGE task to care for a home well.
Our spouses become a business partner upon whom we are dependent in order to accomplish the daily objectives of home management. Our conversations become completely consumed by scheduling pick up, drop off, various appointments, bed times, discipline situations, school work, and meals (just to name a few).
It is easy to get caught at this hectic pace and find a new normal in marriage which is characterized by nothing more than managing a household. Within the blink of an eye a month has passed, then another, then a few years, and on it goes…
This is where a husband or wife find themselves having raised children along side of a business partner rather than the best friend with whom they fell in love. This is also why marriages often crumble once the children begin leaving the home.
You pursued your spouse because you enjoyed spending time with him/her. You had fun together. Your relationship was a source of joy in your life. This was and still is God’s beautiful gift of marriage.
Challenge: Do whatever it takes to plan and pursue FUN with your spouse. Do not plan it for months from now but rather make it happen this week. It could be as simple as a meal on the patio after the kids go to bed. Play some of your favorite music from when you first began dating and then laugh at how ridiculous you were back then…. but how much fun you had together. Make it simple. Make it fun. Make it normal. Do not delay.